Monday, May 26, 2008

Story I Love most and always forget


Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the hospital room.
One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to
help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room"s only window.
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families,
their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where
they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he
would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could
see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live, for those one-hour periods where
his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour
of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.
Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.
Young lovers walked arm-in-arm amidst flowers of every color of the rainbow.
Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline
could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all of this in exquisite detail, the
man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the
picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man couldn"t hear the band - he could see it in his
mind"s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive
words. Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to
find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully
in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body
away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he
could be moved next to the window.

The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was
comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first
look at the world outside.

Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it for himself.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.
It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have
compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful
things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said,
Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.- Epilogue:
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own
situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can"t buy. Today is a gift, that"s why it is called the present.

Life


LIFE
Let It Fly Eventually~

What does one need in life?

What does one needs to achieve?
Who set the target?

When young, we are taught 1+1=2.
When we start schooling, we understand that there are many ways to get 2.
When we start working, we understand that there is tolerance given to 2.
When we end working, we no longer give a damn to 2, what is the big deal?

I always remember my Moral Education lesson that have a statement:

Life is a Journey....

I forgot what I wrote.

Today, I find life is a journey began with a start and will finish with an end.
Everyone starts at the starting line of birth and eventualy end the race with death.

The difference is the duration(time) and the ways (journey).

If only life have a choice Do we?

Attitude...Tomorrow

Dear All,

I have a friend call Ah Yap who is a electrical engineer.
Now, Yap is one of those guy you love to hate.
He is always in a good mood and always have something positive to say.
When someone ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "if I were any better,
I would be twins!". He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day,
Yap was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the
situation.

Seeing his style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Yap and asked him,
"I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all the time. How do you do it?"
Yap replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have 2 choices today.
You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad one.
I choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose
to learn from it.
I choose to learn from it. Everytime someone comes to me complaining, I can
choose to accept
their complaint or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the
positive side of life.

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is, " Yap said. "
Life is all about choices.
When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice.
You choose how to react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be
in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line : It's your choice how you live life.
I reflected on what Yap said.

I've lost touch with Yap for over 10 yrs, but I often thought about him when
I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. 3 months ago , I heard that Yap was involved in a serious accident, falling
some 30 feet from a communication tower. After 18 hrs. of surgery and weeks
of intensive care,
Yap was discharge from hospital with iron rods placed in his back.
I saw Yap last week after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he
replied. "If I were any better,
I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but I did
ask him what had gone
through his mind as the accident took place. " The first thing that went
through my mind was the
well being of my soon to be born son, " Yap replied. " Then, as I lay on the
ground, I remember that I
had 2 chioces : I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I choose to
live.
"Were't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Yap continued,
".... the paramedics were great.
They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into
emergency room and I
saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really
scared. In their eyes,
I read "he's a dead man. I knew I needed to take action.

"What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big fat nurse shouting
questions at me," said Yap.
"She asked if I was allergic to anything" Yes, I replied. The doctors and
nurses stopped working as
they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, "Gravity." Over
their laughter, I told them,
"I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I'm alive, not dead. "Yap lived,
thanks to the skill of his
doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
I learn from him last week that every day we have the choice to be
successful and live fully.

Attitude, after all , is everything.
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.
Each day have enough trouble of its own".

Lessons

A young executive was leaving the office at 6 p.m. when he found
the CEO standing in front of a shredder with a piece of paper
in his hand.

"Listen," said the CEO "this is a very sensitive and important
document, and my secretary has left. Can you make this thing work?"

"Certainly," said the young executive. He turned the machine on,
inserted the paper, and pressed the start button.

"Excellent, excellent!" said the CEO as his paper disappeared inside the machine. "I just need one copy."

Lesson learnt: - Never, never assume that your BOSS knows everything.


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An American and a Japanese were sitting on the plane on the way to
LA when the American turned to the Japanese and asked, "What kind of -ese are you?"

The Japanese confused, replied, "Sorry but I don't understand what you mean."

The American repeated, "What kind of -ese are you ?"

Again, the Japanese was confused over the question. The American, now
irritated, then yell, "What kind of -ese are you...Are you a Chinese,
Japanese, Vietnamese, etc......"

The Japanese then replied, "Oh, I am a Japanese." A while
later the Japanese turned to the American and asked what kind of '-key' was he.

The American, frustrated, yelled, "What do you mean what kind of '-key' am I ?!"

The Japanese said, "Are you a monkey, donkey or a Yankee ?"

Lesson : Never insult anyone.

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5 Golden Rules of Relationship

A relationship coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term success.When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to findingMr/Ms Right!If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe this is the #1 mistakepeople make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationshipon love alone. You need a lot more.

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you'reserious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1:Do we share a common life purpose?Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone.What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want outof life - bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2:Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust! i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom youfeel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3:Is he/she a mensch?A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person.How can you test? Here are some suggestions.1. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis?2. Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always>>striving to be good and do the right thing"."So, ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time?Is this person materialistic?" Usually, a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world:People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4:How does he/she treat other people?The one most important thing that makes any relationship workis the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?To measure this, think about the following:1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc?2. How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?3. Do they show respect? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them!4. Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly aswell.

QUESTION #5:Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intentionof trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage ... for the worse!"If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. Thekey is to try leading a little more with your head and less with yourheart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating,to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring onyour finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

HOW WILL I KNOW IF I'VE MET THE PERSON I SHOULD MARRY?

The choice of a marriage partner should not be based on"I get a warm, wonderful feeling whenever we're together and I want to have that warm wonderful feeling forever, so let's go get married". Feelings, as we have discussed, have no logic on their own.They need to be acknowledged, of course, but they need considerable assistance from your brain. Marriage means choosing the person you will spend the rest of your lifewith. This, as you may have guessed, is a very long time tospend with one person. This person will live with you, eat meals with you, sleep with you and go on vacation with you. More important yet, this person will share your children. You need to choose wisely. The decision should not be made based onfeelings alone. You need to ask yourself some tough questions. Thedecisions have to be made on solid considerations. Will this person be a good partner? Is she mature enough toput her own selfish desires aside to look out for what is best for the family?Is he prepared to be a good provider? What is his track record? Is he responsible enough to get a good job and keep it?Will this person be a good parent? Can you stand the thought of yourchildren turning out exactly like this person? They will, you know. Children spend a lot of time with their parents and consequentlypick up many or most of their parents' character traits. Youhad better like your spouse's traits a lot because you will be seeing them again in your children.If something were to happen to you, would you completelytrust this person, alone, with the task of raising and forming your children? This is not a pleasant thought, but it is an important consideration.Not everyone dies at a ripe old age with great grandchildren gathered around the bed.Sometimes a parent dies and leaves young children in the careof the other parent. If you feel that you would need to be around tocorrect or lessen this person's influence on your children, then you are considering the wrong person.Does this person share your faith in God? God does not giveus children so that we can mould them into the coolest, most popularpeople in school.Our job is to get them to heaven. To do that, we need to raise thembelieving in God. It is tough to do that if only one parentbelieves. Saying "This is right and that is wrong, and I want youto ignore Mommy until you are thirty-five" does not work. Small children ask about eight million questions in a single day. The answers to those questions go a long way toward forming the kind of adults they will become.Who will be answering those questions for your children?Does this person you are marrying have sexual self-control? Single people sometimes have this idea that marriage is just some kind of lifelong sex festival and that as long as they have each other, they will never be tempted by other people. Wrong!There are many times in every marriage when one partner or the other is sexually unavailable - illness, the last months of pregnancy, travel.There are also times when spouses, just get on each others' nerves. At times like this, other people can seem very appealing. That can be dangerous, because there are plenty of very attractive people out there who are willing to make themselves available to married men and women. Do you want someone who has never said "no" to sex? Ifhe is not good at saying "no" at eighteen, it won't be different at forty. Do you want to worry about whether or not your Spouse is being faithful? These are very important questions, and if you are not comfortable with all of the answers, you should definitely not marry this person. None if this is to say that feelings play no role at all in a marriage decision. You don't have to, "Well, I suppose that you would make a good spouse and parent, so even though I don't particularly likeyou I guess I'll marry you'. You need to be happy and excited about the prospect of spending your life with someone. Your brain however must acknowledge that this person as a good choice.Don't listen to your heart alone nor your head alone. Wait until yourheart and head agree. Always Listening... Always Understanding....Always Build trust in each other....